Separation and break ups are really emotionally draining and mentally exhausting, the process seems to gnaw at you like the problems have teeth, like the fights have knives ,that the endless banters and nagging have stones and they seem to crush and break your bones. Getting back together with your spouse seems to make everything even worse.
Every day, you begin to reminisce all the good moments and gets confused why it all ended so bad, so painfully terrible at that.
You begin to wonder why all the love and hugs and kisses turned to cold batting eyelashes and verbally abusive words. You begin to ask why you have turned so violent towards each other.
As psychology dictates, arguments are a negative experience in a marriage, and when the both of you as a spouse, has have had enough, you tend to lose it, and decide to break up, cool off for a while.
During your separation, you begin to realize what is important for your happiness, and sometimes that happiness means you don’t want to see your spouse ever again. But you are still hoping right? You still hope that maybe one day your feelings will come rushing through the way they did before and you feel the lightness of being involved with your partner again.
But sometimes, you want more time to be independent and to be free and to escape from reality for a while. But what happens if you start to decide that you need to make up with your spouse and that they are still important to you? Do you have any idea how to win them back at the very least? Or just like thousands of people in this world, you just simply don’t know where and how to start?
Well, fret no more, for today we will unveil the secret magic of making up in getting back together with your back and in getting them to love you again.
For most of you who have finally settled to win their spouses back, you have accepted that there has been flaws and faults in your end which contributed to the downfall of your relationship, for most of you, you simply just want to bring back harmony into each other’s lives because you still care and love your partners.
Realizing that you have had a contributory neglect in the fall of your marriage is one good way of making up and making amends with your spouse. This is where you learn to be more tolerant of failure and of admitting them. Making up with your spouse means being accountable for the negative damages you have inflicted on them and taking responsibility. If you outright confess to your spouse that you also are somehow to blame for the hurt and the pain that have dawned on your marriage, this will bring you a higher chance to be forgiven and to be loved back.
Your spouse, just like any other person, wants to feel that they have a reliable and responsible adult partner who can take responsibility for their faults. They also want a partner who can change their bad behavior to make the marriage work. So if you do and confess that you are willing to take account for all the mistakes you have done and the same way change them and try to be a more peaceful and loving person based on the standards expected by your partner, making up will be easier and getting back together with your spouse will be faster.
But for some of you who still feel shy to open up or communicate, you can make up by making magic work and doing things that are different than before. Getting back together with your spouse means that you can do romantic acts like buy thermoses, surprise them and say sorry, buy them their favorite food, attend their important events and give them warm huge hugs to make things work.
In the end, surprising people and catching them unguarded is one of the sure ways to make them fall for you. It makes them love you more, so getting back together with your spouse won’t be difficult anymore. This time your spouse will be happier and your marriage will twinkle. You will also have to know that getting back with your spouse is easy if only you sideline your huge skyscraper ego aside for a while. It does not mean you have to lose your self-respect, it only means compromising your ego on things that matter more